The Fundamental Delusion of Life
Reality is often flawed — and what to do about it
Life gets complex when you assume the many responsibilities that come with maturity. You also become most vulnerable and insecure when you expect others to do more to make your life easier.
Why do people feel miserable a lot of the time? The answer lies in our outlook on life. We think that there is something or someone outside us who can make us happy. We look for external things to solve our problems.
The idea that something or someone is out there — an algorithm or concept, a person, place, or thing — that will magically make you happy is pervasive in modern culture. It’s the foundational delusion of our time.
Ralph Marston explains, “Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you,” says
When you look outside yourself and focus on what other people want, have to do for you or expect from you; it becomes nearly impossible to feel fulfilled or happy. You give away your power to change your…
