Whatever You Do, Don’t Outsource Your Happiness

Be responsible for your life experiences

Thomas Oppong


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It pays to live life on your own terms. If you can’t, the one thing you shouldn’t make someone else’s responsibility is your own happiness. No single person should be responsible for your happiness.

If you are waiting for any member of your family or others to make you happy, you will be waiting for a very long time. And it’s a terrible way to live.

Don’t get me wrong — by all means, do more for those you care about. Make quality time for them but don’t make your happiness their responsibility.

Roy T. Bennett was right when he said, “Take responsibility of your own happiness; never put it in other people’s hands.”

Much of human misery stems from the need to be liked or accepted by others. Many people place less value on their own opinions of themselves than what others think of them.

They look to others to feel happiness. And waste a lot of time in the process. Think about it: all that time you spend expecting your spouse, parents or the people you love to make you happy, could have been spent on events and experiences that makes you come alive.

All the time you spend waiting for approval from someone to feel appreciated could have been spent doing what you enjoy.

No one knows what makes you happy better than you do

“Your heart. Your life. Your happiness is your responsibility and your responsibility alone.” — Will Smith

When your entire lifestyle is based on what others think of you, you become a hostage. You stop living for yourself or doing what’s best for you.

90 percent of the time, people are busy trying to improve their own lives. That’s why you need to take your happiness into your own hands.

Unhappy people wait for something or someone to make them happy. Your happiness is your personal responsibility. It means finding better sources of happiness you can control — something to do, someone to love and something to look forward to.



Thomas Oppong

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