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You Are Not Your Pain — Don’t Define Yourself By Your Suffering
Emotional pain is not permanent
Do you ever feel like no one understands what you’re going through? Maybe you have some secret pain or struggle that others can’t see.
Perhaps you feel alone and isolated with your troubles. You might even view your struggles as defining characteristics of who you are as a person.
Do you ever feel like the world has it out for you? Maybe everything that can go wrong does, and there’s nothing good coming your way. You think to yourself, What is wrong with the universe!?
For many, life can feel like everyone else is just handed happiness; others get breaks while they’re left in the dust.
This feeling of being a victim and the world being unfair is something we call “victim mentality.” It’s that moment when all your disappointments, failures, and heartbreaks define who you are.
You think things will never get better. You give up on life because everything sucks so much. And even if things get better, you think or convince yourself it won’t last long enough for you to enjoy it.
If you often find yourself saying things like “I’m the type of person who struggles with…,” or “I’m always the one who…?”, you must learn to break from…
